Running head: DIVORCE AND THE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN 1
Inthe last few decades, the subject of increased divorce rates has beena major focus in media platforms. According toEverett(2011), divorce is a serious social upheaval that causes detrimentaleffects to the children of the divorced couples. It is evident thatdivorce in the contemporary society has become a social norm wheremarried people no longer accord the marriage institution the respectand honor that it deserves. Apparently, married couples are gettingdivorced over numerous matters such as infidelity, arguments, loss ofintimacy among other factors. According to Everett(2009), many divorce cases occur when children are young and thatmakes them unaware of how to deal with the predicament. Thoughdivorce has instigated numerous debates in different social spheresdue to its controversial nature, it should be noted that divorce mayat times be positive and beneficial. For instance, in a marriagesituation where one partner is ever tormenting and torturing theother divorce might serve as the only solution. Domestic violence is,therefore, a major factor that instigates divorce in many societies.According toWhite(2012), 80% of all divorce cases reported in the United States in2014 occurred as a result of domestic violence.
Divorcesets up an immense change in the life of children. Witnessing parentsseparate, adapting to the movement between two different householdsand the frequent absence of one parent is awfully challenging forchildren of divorced parents. According to psychologists, children’sworldview is dependent. Children are intimately attached to theirparents as the most trusted people in their life. Divorce tends tominimize this trust because divorced couples behave in anon-dependable manner (Willis,2012).As a result, children start thinking independently, which oftenresults to indiscipline, rebellion and aggressiveness. Such childrenare often psychologically affected and can hardly concentrate inclass. They also become antisocial and introverts. They feelsegregated and hated since they consider their parents, failures, infamily commitments.
Moreover,divorce illicit insecurity and fear to children. Due to the emotionalinstability experienced by children of divorced couples, they usuallyassociate their parents’ divorce with failure or instability in thefuture. Young children are usually egocentric, a factor that makesthem feel that they are the cause of their parents’ divorce. Theyare often depressed and it may take a lot of time to adjust to thelife after divorce.
Additionally,in most divorce cases, there is a reduction in the finances.Consequently, the living standards often become low. This oftencauses a lot of stress to the children since they may even be forcedto transfer to cheaper schools and relocate to cheaper apartments.Their lifestyles generally change. This becomes awfully difficult forthe children to adapt (Wilson,2009).
Ina nutshell, before filing any divorce case, couples should firstconsider the effects that divorce will pose to their children. It isevident that children are not in a position to fully comprehend whatdivorce entails. However, in tough occasions where the divorce has totake place, the family should seek counseling over the matter. Thoughdivorce could be the only amicable solution to a love gone souraffair, it might the beginning of psychological and physical tormentto children’s social life. According toWilson(2009), to avoid divorce cases and family break ups for the sake ofthe children, couples need to respect each other and be faithful inthe marriage institution.
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