DIVORCEAND THE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
Divorcebrings about a massive impact into the life of a child, a boy or agirl, regardless of the age (Psychology Today, 2015). Observingparents break their marriage commitment, loss of love betweenparents, daily absence of one parent while living with the other andcoping with life of moving between two different households developsan altogether unconducive environment in which to live (PsychologyToday, 2015). Parental divorce significantly changes the life ofchildren (Psychology Today, 2015).
Thisis because children always perceive their children are able to solveand handle any issue. The children have the attitude that theirparents are competent people with supernatural abilities to meettheir needs (Wilson, 2009). They believe there is no great problemthat their parents cannot handle (Wilson, 2009). It follows thereforethat, when divorce happens, there is a significant breakdown of thisbasic safety and the child intrinsic belief of their parents’abilities to care for them and to make the decision that trulyconsider their well-being (Howell, 2009).
Mostchildren ultimately experiences negative impact owing to thedisruption of family unit to which they are directly connected.Children strongly believe that there is only right familyrelationship, their mother and father being together (Willis, 2008).Basically divorce initiates a conflict and disruption of their basicunderstanding of life.
Whileit is essentially presumed that every child suffers the lost securityand lost relationship, additionally many believe it is the emotionalscars that inflict visible consequences (Psychology Today, 2015). Research conducted for more than three decades indicate that divorceto children always illicit negative effects in their lives. Theeffects which are measurable are calculated through the rising levelof risks, the noted effect does not necessarily expected to happen toevery child, but divorce significantly increases the risks (Wilson,2009).
Accordingto several research conducted, comparing the children of divorcedparents to children with married parents, shows that children fromdivorced homes experience considerable challenges (Psychology Today,2015). It is has been widely observed that the children from divorcedhomes are affected academically. Due to high levels of behavioralproblems, their grades ultimately drops and few manage to graduatefrom high school (Fischer, 2004). It is noted that the children aremore than likely to commit crime in their adolescent stage. What ismore is the fact that chances of children from divorced parentsengaging in alcohol, drug abuse and illicit behavior are greatlyincreased (Psychology Today, 2015).
Thereoccurs a different level of responses to the sudden change of eventsto children after divorce. Essentially divorce increases child’sdependence and considerably accelerate the adolescent’sindependence (Psychology Today, 2015). It usually develops a moreregressive response in the child and consequently increased responsein the adolescent (Willis, 2008). The nature of children isexclusively dependent one, growing to become closely attached totheir parents who are their favorite companions having their familyas the main social life. To the young kids divorce breaks the trustof depending on their parents and in effect develops an extremelyundependable behavior (Willis, 2008).
Itis apparent therefore, that divorce surgically divides the familyunit into two separate households upon which the child transit backand forth developing in the process instability, insecurity andunfamiliarity among the children from divorced parents.
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